When I was a kid, we used to hike up along a canyon in the
mountains. After an hour walk we got to a spot where we could climb down to the
river at the bottom of the canyon with our fishing rods. It was my favorite
place to fish, because we always caught 10-15 trout in an hour or two. Every time
we got there, a screaming
buzzard couple circulated above our heads, trying to
scare us off, to protect their nest in the cliff above the river. In recent
years I’ve been there with my own kids. Both the trout in the river and the buzzard
in the cliff are still there.
I don’t know if it’s the same buzzard couple (they can live
for 20 years). It could be the same couple, because the buzzards live in
lifelong monogamous relationships. Monogamy is quite rare in nature. It’s
common in only a few species, including buzzards and humans (but not trout).
Is monogamy (or the opposite) a natural or cultural phenomenon (nature
or nurture)? That’s an interesting question. I don’t know the answer, but I have
some thoughts about it. This topic has been carefully researched by a variety
of scientists (check it out in
Wikipedia), and here are just my thoughts. I'll touch into both the biological and cultural aspects of it.
Let’s start with biology and nature. Two issues are important for every species of animals: (1) reproduction, and (2) protection and safety. Humans are just one
species among many mammals. Our main purpose on earth is to breed and spread our genes
as wide as possible. This is good for the genetic health (just take a look at
the paintings of the Habsburgers, and you will see what happens when the genetic
variability becomes too limited). Therefore, the males want to screw as many
females as possible.
After the ejaculation the male needs some time to recover
before he can perform again. The recovery time is shorter (reduced from, say, 20 mins to 5 mins) if he’s offered a new
female. That’s the way it works. The biological purpose of this mechanism is to
throw the seed over as many fields as possible. This counteracts the idea of
monogamy. In the modern society the consequence of this is that men enjoy
watching porn (I think I have read somewhere that statistically 95% of men get
turned on by porn, whether they admit it or not; for women the number is lower). And they want to see a great variety of models (that’s why the Internet is full of porn).
For the female mammals, things are somewhat different. They
can’t spread their genes in the same way as the male. The female must bear and give birth to the offspring, and feed it until it's able to survive on it's own. Hence, they use a different
strategy. The females want to be fucked by the superior males, the alpha-males
in the wolf pack. That’s why the females put so much effort into clothing, hair and make-up when they go out to bars and discotheques. The red glossy lipstick is a
projection of their their swollen horny labia for the reproduction marketplace (the last
proposition isn’t my idea; I read it in a book by the British behavior psychologist
Desmond Morris).
In the wolf pack, the alpha-male is the strongest and most
dominant individual. For humans, the situation is more diverse. The alpha-males
can acquire their status by (symbols of) physical strength, thick wallets, political power or bright minds, or
a combination thereof (that’s why women tend to admire Johnny Depp). The men
who lose the alpha-male battle go to the prostitutes and pay to get their seeds
spread over the fields.
Remark, somewhat on the side: Men tend to like chubby and
curvy women because they appear more fertile, which is appealing to men’s biological
instincts. The strive for skinny and bony bodies and narrow hips is just a counter-natural
competition between women who don’t realize that it just makes them less
attractive (unless that’s what they want).
Another remark: For ants and wasps, the situation is
different. The female can produce lots of eggs in a short time, and the ant and
wasp queens attract and serve an army of males. Humans however, are more like wolves and gorillas than marching ants (imagine what it would be like if we were
like ants).
That’s my thoughts about Monogamy-cons, the reasons why we
want to fuck around like horny gorillas. I have to split this topic in two
parts, and deal with the monogamy-pros later (otherwise this post becomes way
to long, and I would get to tired tomorrow morning).
(The picture is from my archives, taken some years ago, in
the canyon with the nesting buzzard couple)
